Building Relationships When Two Families Are Combined Into One
Building Relationships When Two Families Are Combined Into One by Aydan Corkern
In the world of today, having a family that does not involve step family of some kind is rare. There are so many marriages and divorces taking place at a much more rapid rate it seems than ever before. It is not uncommon for a person to marry, have a couple of kids, get divorced, and remarry in the space of ten years or less. When a person marries someone who already has children, it can be a little tricky for everyone to get along. When the couple that marries both already have children, it can seem impossible to create a harmonious new family.
There are almost always custody issues and visitation rights involved. There are ex-spouses involved that sometimes make the situation even worse. It can be difficult to keep up with which children are in residence this week and who will be gone to visit another parent next week. This can make building relationships with stepchildren and step parents more problematic, especially if there is hostility between former spouses.
It is a sad scenario, but too often true, that a previous spouse will malign a new stepparent to a child. Sometimes even a new stepparent will malign the previous spouse to the child. This is such a terrible thing to do to any child. They are usually distraught enough about their parents getting divorced in the first place without the parents and stepparents involved making more stress and tension for them to deal with.
It is not always this particular problem that prevents a stepparent from being able to build a relationship with a stepchild. Sometimes a child will just refuse to respond to a stepparent no matter how hard they try to be close or even just get along. Sometimes a step parent will have to settle for being able to live peacefully together if they are not able to create a closer bond. Do your best as an adult in this combined family situation to get along peacefully with everyone involved and if you have any spiteful or maligning remarks you feel are justified, even if they are, it is often best to keep them to yourself if possible.
No blended family is going to be perfect, just like no family that stays together without a divorce is ever perfect. In both cases, any family, no matter how it is formed, must take one day at a time, one problem at a time and hope for the best.
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