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Women, Quit Using Finance For Romance - It is a Bad Idea
By Francis K Githinji

Women are walking around with broken hearts of being financially taken advantage of by men. The pain of knowing that someone took you for granted is very excruciating. Many women who are in this unhealthy relationships are quick to chip in and help their men financially. Fork lore has it that there is no romance without finance but it is saddening that women who expect to work with finance for romance are having it rough. These jerks disguise their inhumanity with romantic guise only to reveal their true colors after the wallets are empty. Women are contented when somebody takes good care of them but this is not expected in men. Women might give their all in hope that the care and love will be reciprocated only to be disappointed.

Women have a compromising nature and develop a soft spot for the man taking care of them. The tycoons believe in the finance for romance phenomenon. This is because the women they have spoilt with money are always by their side. Women are flexible and they do not have a wandering spirit. What is extremely unfortunate is that when wealthy women try to use the same strategy, they fail miserably. A rich girl feels she can buy a guy’s love with her hard-earned money. If you are a woman my advice to you is to let the guy love you for who you are. A healthy relationship should be on the basis of give-and-take arrangement. Guys have taken another trend of being dependent and irresponsible.

Women are serving as meal ticket for the lazy fellows whose only business is plotting. They scheme on how to borrow money from her and never pay it back. The guys sit around or pretend to be working by shifting in between jobs. The unsuspecting loving women are drained off their resources by these men and the decent guys are given a bad name. This practice is gaining popularity with time and unless women develop discerning skills, they will continue to suffer in the hands of these scheming gigolos. The modern-day macho men are not denying their gold-digging tendencies. They are proud of not sweating and yet enjoying the money bliss. Finance for romance is their tool of trade.

As a woman you should read the warning signs before you engage in a finance for romance kind of relationship. The guys are good at what they do: fooling. Circumstances compel them to use money to keep the gold diggers in their lives. Sometimes these women never learn, they get jilted and still entertain another man with the same kind of manners. Never use finance to maintain romance if you are a woman because men will use you and damp you. The pain of rejection causes a lot of pain especially when you have done all you can to create emotional stability. Life is not always fair so the more you give is not the more you receive. You should learn to evaluate the situation as you grow old because it is not all about the pursuit of fun. Look before you leap because it is not always that life has a safety net.

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Falling in Love
By Alison Sardelli

Thousands of years ago, the idea that two people could have such intense and lasting feelings for one another that they might last a life time, was as mind boggling an issue, as it remains today. While some people chase the idea of love their entire life, others spend that time running away from it. With so many questions, that even the most brilliant minds of our time can only theorize about, falling in love and the complex feelings, emotions and physical reactions that play out during this time will probably forever remain shrouded in mystery.

With the growth of self discovery and a desire for explanation it was only a matter of time before people sought a way to explain the intense emotions surrounding love through science. Once the physical and emotional reactions were studied by countless groups of experts it became obvious that there are indeed certain patterns which people follow that can seemingly explain love. However, many people still believe that while science can show the physical effects of such an emotion other forces play a hand in the event. Whether you believe in the clinical or spiritual version; whether you choose to call it love or simply rely on the chemical reaction one person has in the presence of another, there is no doubt that a large portion of the population hopes to experience such feelings in their lifetime.

Now that we have taken a small peek into some of the larger theories behind what might be the most intense and widely discussed human emotion, how does one proceed? When thousands of years of accumulative knowledge; brilliant, scientific minds; magnificent, religious leaders and even revered, romance novelists can’t hand you a precise definition, (or handbook,) how can you know when you are in, how to get or how to retain love? The answer is: there is no answer. People are unique and difficult, strange and wonderful creatures that will not always fit the recommended course of action. Many people have heard the standard advice: always be yourself, treat others as you would have them treat you, learn to compromise…and while this is good advice, it doesn’t always help in certain situations. Though a guide to the secrets of love may not be available, many believe that simply being willing to understand such an emotion is a great start toward making a success of it and if you’re reading this, you may find that you’re in that group of people who not only want love, but have a lot of love to give.

So what 5 recommendations can you read about that you haven’t read before? Perhaps none: living as we do in the age of not only technology, but perhaps more importantly, information, you may have all the advice you need to plunge into the world of finding your soul mate. However, if you find that a few details couldn’t hurt and perhaps you’re still feeling that a little advice never hurts:

1. Being Honest about Who You Are: or the more popular, always be yourself: This is very true for the most part, but in some cases revealing everything, right away, is a bad idea. To deceive your future partner is in all likelihood is a road that leads to the beginning of the end and will not usually prove the best method for falling in love with another person; to allow that person to get close to you before you explain certain complex parts of your life, or personality that might seem undesirable until they have a better chance to know you, is perfectly healthy. You should never have to lie to a person about who you are, but every person has sides to them that are more private. Rather than thinking of it as truth or lie it can help to reveal parts of yourself based on levels of trust; once your relationship has reached a comfortable level of trust it might be time to reveal the less attractive parts of your life, until then don’t lie, but don’t be ashamed to highlight the best parts of yourself for display.

2. Everybody’s problematic: Heading into the dating world while focusing on shortcomings tends to leave a person feeling inadequate. It can appear as though any potential dates are flawless and therefore, untouchable. Don’t forget that however together a person may seem, they have flaws just like you. Not only does this help at the beginning of a relationship when confidence may be an issue, but further down the road when problems arise between you and the love of your life, it can help to understand situations from that person’s point of view; keeping your own flaws in mind will help you to be a more patient and understanding partner in the future.

3. Chemical Copout: Love and lust are not the same thing and while each feeling has its’ plus side, confusing one for the other can be a heartbreaking mistake. Keep in mind that when attraction occurs on physical level this might just be the time when you are least in control of your actions. We have all heard the stories, from both sexes, about actions taken that people later regret simply because they felt that they were not thinking straight. That is not to say that physical interactions aren’t an enormous and wonderful part of human relationships, but to fall in love with a body part might not turn out quite the way you hope it will. If you are looking for love, attraction is a great start, but just as you should not always let your heart rule your head, same goes for other various parts of the body.

4. It might not happen: Phrases often used to comfort those who are lonely or heartbroken: Don’t worry you’ll fall in love someday or There’s a special person out there just for you: Not always. No one can promise you that you will find a wonderful person to fall in love with, that everything will be great and that you will live happily ever after. Sometimes the best course of action to take is to simply let it go. Find happiness and contentment in your life and learn to live for those reasons. Ironically enough, people who choose to focus on the progress they wish to make in their lives, whatever that means to them, end up bumping into the people of their dreams. Why is it that love can hit you over the head during this time period of self progression? It is extremely attractive to most people to find a person who knows exactly who they are and what they would like to do with their life. Whether or not you fall in love your life can be full and wonderful and can still include deep relationships with those close to you.

5. Fate, a fickle friend and unfathomable foe: True romantics often think of falling in love as a predetermined course that each couple is set upon, no action, or event can break destiny and therefore two people can truly be meant for each other. While fate may play a hand in our lives, love or otherwise, to depend on destiny to deliver you a perfect mate might be asking a little too much. In short: you have to get out there and look for the person with whom you can share your life with. It will require patience, honesty and a little style to meet and successfully fall in love with another person. You may feel nervous, embarrassed and at times completely confused about the entire love issue, but know this: almost everybody (some people can’t admit things,) feels just that way at one time or another about love. The very same people who can terrify you at first may eventually be as comfortable to be around as your own family (depending on your family.) Trust plays a big part in finding a good relationship, when do you begin to trust and how quickly should you trust a new person in your life? Unfortunately you can’t always be sure about the timing in a relationship and it may require a little instinct or discussion. Once again, the same questions are most likely taking place, behind those pretty eyes you find yourself lost in; take the leap when you’re ready and don’t be afraid to try.

If falling in love, if finding love, was an easy task to accomplish, the human race might not be so intrigued by its’ affect on society and the individual. Know that when you feel a little lost it is a feeling shared by billions of other people, over thousands of years. The next time you are out looking, online chatting or even being fixed up; remember that you’re not alone; most people want to find love and perhaps with a mix of science, fate, determination and a little luck you too can find your own answers to that elusive and awe inspiring mystery.

Written by Alison your online dating and relationship advisor; be sure to check out our online dating reviews for more information and to submit your own questions.

Many years of experience working with the emotional, mental and physical aspects of dating and relationship difficulties has enabled Alison to diagnose specific problems and offer advice/solutions to these complex and important issues. Visit http://www.villagematchmaker.com to read about helpful tips and submit questions of your own.

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Love and Dangerous Relationships With the Wrong People
By Christina Sponias

Thanks to my summer offer of free professional dream translation I have met many different people on the internet and I have seen what their problems were.

This is why I decided to urgently write an e-book giving guidance to young people about how they can discover the right person for them and keep them near them for life, this way keeping their happiness for life.

I received very many dreams about love matters. And the interesting point is that these dreams are the clearest ones, what means that anyone can easily learn how to interpret them.

So, I made a combination, and I prepared two e-books in order to help young people start their lives in a balanced way, so that they’ll find happiness and keep it for as long as they live, and I prepared also an e-book that shows them clearly how they can interpret dreams about the person they love.

What I want to tell you today is that you should never agree to have a relationship without love.

For example, I received two dreams from a young boy who saw a nightmare and was afraid about its meaning. The first dream explained the second one, which was the nightmare.

His biography also confirmed and explained his dreams. This is why we have to know a few details about the dreamer’s life in order to properly translate his or her dreams.

His story is somehow complicated, because his dreams revealed the existence of a neurotic tendency in his behavior. So, his dreams are not simple dreams, like the ones I mentioned before.

When we observe a neurotic characteristic, the dream indispensably needs translation and the dreamer indispensably needs psychotherapy.

In his first dream he sees his girlfriend sad and he kisses her, ending up kissing her passionately, but awakening up with a weird feeling that he couldn’t say that was love…

In the second dream he sees himself very violently hitting a person he should love, and feeling regret in the end.

What had happened?

He is a teen and he has a girlfriend. However, he doesn’t love her. She loves him and he accepted to “give her a try”.

In the first dream it is obvious that he kisses his girlfriend only because she is sad, to comfort her. He kisses her passionately without loving her, simply because he started kissing her and got in the mood…

In the second dream he sees the result of his absurdity. In the end he will only feel revolted for wasting his time being with a girl that he doesn’t really love, only because she loves him, and he will be cruel with her. This is what the dream was clearly reflecting.

She doesn’t let him find the girl that would really make him happy and he simply accepts this situation.

Someday he is going to explode…

I wrote him many explanations, advising him to stay single and look for a girl that won’t let him doubt if he really loves her or not.

This is a very serious question! If you have a relationship without feeling that you love the person you are with, don’t go ahead!

Don’t insist on a mistake, because the consequences are very bitter.

This was a simple example, and yet, so true. I can relate many similar cases, where you’ll verify that the person makes serious mistakes only because they are too ignorant. And then they become victims of craziness and despair, doing terrible things against others and against themselves…

One mistake leads to another, one bad event provokes another and in the end, we see teens committing suicide without any apparent reason.

Relationships with wrong people are very dangerous!

Be very careful with what you do with your life and be very serious in your decisions.

Life is not a toy, and the consequences of an insignificant mistake could be very grave.

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A Heart in Love - The Great Equalizer
By Audrey Valeriani

In preparing to write my book on women, self-esteem and relationships, I talked to a lot of people. As I listened to their stories, it became clear that the one thing we all have in common as human beings is our vulnerability to love and matters of the heart.

Whether you’re a woman or a man, there will be a person, at some point, who will have the power to bring you to your knees, begging for more sweet torture. Someone who will cause you to feel the deepest joy and the most horrific pain imaginable. A person whom you never thought existed, whom you will love and hate simultaneously. And on the day you realize this has happened to you, you will become a hunter for the answers to life’s love puzzle.

More specifically, the journey you embark on will be much like the road everyone else travels. You will feel as though you are in a maze of twists and turns, experiencing high and low altitudes, including times of both mind-numbing boredom and heart pounding surprise.

And as I have found, the reasons for your blind voyage on the Sea of Anything but Tranquility will stem directly from your relationship with your beloved and may include, but are not limited to, the following: insecurity, jealousy, language problems, mood fluctuations, misdiagnosing of problems, infidelity, lack of mechanical skill, and aggravation due to sleep deprivation! In other words, you’ll drive each other crazy.

And unless and until you complete the aforesaid puzzle, you may enter into a rather dizzying cycle of repeating the same mistakes with a variety of potential Ms. or Mr. Rights. Instead, wouldn’t you rather navigate calmly through these rough waters, steering the boat with your feet, while enjoying the sun and sipping on Champagne on your way back from Pleasure Island?

Okay, please forgive my overuse of imagery, but I am trying to drive home a point. We are all capable of being loved and we are all capable of being hurt. However, by identifying the answers to the most common problems agonized over by both women and men, we may narrow the playing field, nip it in the bud, (here I go again) and shorten the distance to happiness if we indeed really want that for which we so deeply yearn.

Because true love is not like the movies. It’s messy and takes hard work and understanding and a sense of humor. It means high heels and passing gas and rug burns and tissues and sports and insufferable relatives and friends… and kindness and compromise and forgiveness. But at the end of the day, isn’t that all any heart wants and needs?

Audrey Valeriani is an author, freelance writer, coach, columnist for The Malden Observer (MA), Consultant for eHarmony Advice, creator/host of http://www.bootcampforthebrokenhearted.com and relationship expert for Womensweb.ca. She is also board chair of Self Esteem Boston Educational Institute, Inc. Her book is Boot Camp for the Broken-Hearted: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love (New Horizon Press, December 2007). You may contact her at theaccidentalexpert@comcast.net

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Enjoy Inflatable Boats - A Love Story Part 1
By Dorothy Miller

Here’s one more story of romance aboard an inflatable boat and I think it’s the most poignant one. It’s the tale of Greg and Linda, married for 15 years, but having some marital difficulties mainly due to strife about financial woes. They were temporarily separated and their last fight was about the fact that Linda thought Greg needed to sell his 30 foot? Boat to lessen their worries. But Greg felt his boat was the one place he could go to really unwind from the stress in his life and he categorically refused to sell it.

Then Mike, a friend of his, suggested downsizing and took Greg out for a ride on his 14 foot inflatable-boat. They went fishing for the day and Greg realized his inflatable, portable boat wasn’t the only way to enjoy the water. Having wonderful experiences in inflatable boats was an option too. Mike’s inflatable fishing boat was surprising fun and Greg knew that if he bought an inflatable, he could still look forward to peaceful weekends out on the bay, fishing, roaring over the waves, or floating gently with a cold beer in his hand.

Greg also realized something more important that day. He really missed Linda and as he reclined in the inflatable, fishing rod in hand, he thought about all the wonderful times they shared over the years and how much they had going for them.

The next day, Greg put his fiber glass boat up for sale and began searching web sites for these very affordable inflatable boats. He came across the best inflatable-boat he could find, had a live chat with a sales clerk online, and bought himself a 14 foot inflatable and Tohatsu motor that very day. Then he called Linda to tell her what he’d done and how much he loved her. They decided to get together to talk that weekend, and guess where their first “date” took place? Yup, on their new inflatable boat. They got very cozy that day as they reminisced about their life together, giggled, smooched and renewed their love for each other while watching a most amazing sunset.

The next day Greg moved back in with Linda, and three weeks later, the sale of their 30 foot YACHT brought the windfall of money they needed to get back on a steady financial track. Linda laughed and said, “I knew an inflatable boat could save a life, but whoever thought it could save a marriage?”

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