Your Dating Advisor

You Either You DO Or You DON’T
By Russell Reardon

In 1970 I went to the Regent Hotel cabaret in Burnie, Tasmania with a friend and like all young guys we were looking to have a good time which included drinking beer and hopefully meeting some girls. We did spot two likely lasses, picked out one each and asked them to dance. Mine was called Stephanie and we seemed to hit it off ok so I asked her out on a date. She didn’t like me very much but agreed because I made her laugh.

Eighteen months later I was working in Scotland and she was working in Germany. One fateful night I picked up the pay phone in a Scottish hotel, rang her in Germany and gave my greatest sales pitch of all time. It went something like this “don’t suppose you wanna get married”.

One month later in London I was in a total daze as Mr & Mrs Reardon were introduced to the gathering of 7 friends and we departed the church in Kensington High St as man and wife.

We made a commitment to each other that we would be married for life and 35 years later I cannot see any reason for that to change.

As citizens of our communities, as friends, colleagues and as members of organizations if you say you are going to do something then DO IT. If something arises and you can’t follow up on your promise then call and let somebody know you can’t make it.

People of substance follow through on their promises. How many times have you heard the words “I’ll try”. Not true - you either will or you wont. Do not promise to do something or be somewhere if you are half hearted.

Being married for 35 years has been hard work. Neither of us is perfect (thankfully - what a pain to have to live with a “perfect person”) and there have been times when tension was thick in the air. When you are committed though, you get through the hard times and learn from the experience.

It seems that society today has a concept of try something for a while and if it doesn’t work, go try something else. That might be ok if you are searching for a career, hobby or activity but once you find what you are looking for, hang on to it - give it quality effort.

Commitment is what Transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak Boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak Louder than the words. It is the making of time when there is none Coming through time after time after time Year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff Character is made of. The power to change The face of things. It is the daily triumph Of integrity over skepticism.

Written by Russell Reardon at home on the Gold Coast of Australia.

Russell has a speaking business as The Possibility Man. He uses this and other life stories to inspire others to live their lives to the max.

If you like this story you would love his book of a life well lived called The Dash

See the summary at http://www.life-is-a-journey.net

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Stuck In A Sexless Marriage
By Tandy Munson

Getting hitched is just the beginning. As soon as the wedding celebration ceremonies are behind you and the honeymoon has indeed been enjoyed, normal life soon start stress inducing problems. In today’s scenario, both the partners have their own choices and demands, and when these demands are not fulfilled, it creates a problem. Unmet expectations can make your relationship weaker and it can lead to a sexless marriage. Don’t get stuck in a sexless marriage, either get out of it or transform your partnership into a sexual healthy pact.

Being stuck in a sexless marriage is not a new thing. Every random couple has at least on a given occasion had to face it. But how you cope up with your sexless life, is all what matters. There are some marriages, in which there is no hope of getting things better. It has become a loveless marriage. If you are suffering from such kind of relationship and there is no reason for which you should stay in your sexless marriage then you should get out, because all the sex in the world will not make him/her love you. Though it won’t be easy to make such a decision, you will be happy in the long run. After all, a loveless marriage is a torture for both the partners, not just one.

But in some marriages, only the sex quotient and the physical intimacy have declined, but love between the couple still exists somewhere, in the form of care. If this is your type of marriage, fortunately your sexual life can be repaired. All you need to be is as caring as you once were; and do those simple things that can bring back the charm in your married life. In today’s era, when both the partners are working, you hardly get time to enjoy your sexual life. Getting up early in the morning and rushing for a meeting or getting the kids ready for school is what is on the mind, no time to think about your sexual desires. Don’t neglect your professional life or your kids, but give a little time to your personal life as well. You should not be stuck in a sexless marriage. You and your partner have all the right in the world to share a healthy sexual relationship.

Stuck in a sexless marriage is very disastrous, and is unhealthy for both partners. What starts as a simple misunderstanding can without communication turn into a serious situation that can cause danger to your marriage.

Whether your marriage is on it’s way or is at this point end this mess now! Don’t make a major decision in your life that you may regret, click below for sincere, trusted information to get out of a sexless marriage and back into a marriage that was meant to be.

Sex is effortless when the will is there. When the will is weak or non-existent sex can be extinct. Don’t let a sexless marriage destroy a special relationship. Feel like your Stuck in a sexless marriage? For more information and advice on how to get the desire and will back into your marriage please click Stuck in a sexless marriage

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Tangled With Uncommitted Relationships
By Daniell Fedron

The world is replete with insurmountable tales of despair and unhappiness. People often seek to correct the errors of others failing to stop and scrutinize their own dejection and hopelessness. There are so many individuals caught in that web of deception that they, sometimes, tend to forget where they want to go, how they should proceed and exactly when they should part with an uncommitted partner. Opinions will vary depending on the person you ask. Nonetheless, whether we want to admit it or not, uncommitted relationships have become an integral part of our society. These sadistic and perverse acts are rampant and usually go by undetected by most of us.

The fact of the matter is you might kid around; you play the fools and pretend that everything is honky dory, but deep down inside you are still sitting in a corner in lotus position, may be praying or hoping you don’t ever land in the kingdom of lost souls where no one ever loves or seriously cares for anybody. Why? Simply because you know that sooner or later everything you worked on will crumble to the ground. You dare not face the unavoidable truth that in the end someone will get hurt. It’s not very difficult to determine where you have to go with an uncommitted relationship. It’s just that many are those who put everything off till tomorrow and tomorrow never comes.

Cautiousness is always the best way to proceed. Just how far do you want to go anyway? We all know that it’s not safe to get enthralled in a relationship bound to disaster. Remember that those who play with fire eventually wind up under the grill. As difficult as it might appear to be, you should try to keep your emotions fenced and refrain from playing with someone else’s feelings. Be sincere and truthful. If you know you are not committed, you should not insist on hearing a commitment. Plain and simple, this is not fair game. When all is said and done, you will have to deal with retribution, karma and all the rest. Many uncommitted partners are inclined to be manipulative, at times, invoking their rights to control the lives of others. Your mind must be swift and tight, if you are going to survive a trip of this ilk. Be alert and stay on guard. If you look close enough you will unveil and recognize the signs.

You should consider yourselves lucky, if you manage to walk out of an uncommitted relationship free of bruises and scratches. Note that I am not necessarily pointing to your physical makeup or complexion although we can’t rule that out either. Uncommitted partners could be explosive individuals retorting to all kinds of tricks in the book. If they sense they are about to be exposed, they can put up a show and dramatize beautiful scenes of change and evoke empty promises tantamount of those seeking reelection. If your blinders are still on, you will not see beyond that mask of treachery, and you will be left powerless against a mudslide of poignant scars and devastating emotions.

Fortunately, not everything is lost. There is still good out there. Even so, we are surrounded by many individuals naive enough to believe in vacuous, radical, and deceptive changes. They gave into the “please give me one more chance.” And oftentimes decided to remain objective while they waited and waited, perhaps waiting too long. Sure tomorrow is another day, but maybe they should have listened to their inner voices and severed all ties the minute they discovered their significant other was not leading them to the top of the mountain rather attempting to trip them off a bottomless pit.

© Daniell Fedron August 19, 2008

Daniell Fedrón is not your modern day mystic yet he enjoys the subject of spirituality, and his self published book, GOD SENDS… THE ANGELS DELIVER http://www.authorhouse.com will attest to this fact. He has a fascination for poetry and praises all those able to see, feel and write about life through poetry. In his latest book, MEMORIES TRAPPED http://pentawriter.blogspot.com, he imaginatively ventures into the adventures and surreal world of childhood. Books are also available at major bookstores and online retailers.

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How to Turn Your Boyfriend Into Your Husband
By Nicole Gayle

EVERY woman wants to meet her one and true love, her soulmate, the man of her dreams.

So if you’re dating, you’re probably wondering when your relationship will go from dating to marriage. But can I ask you a question? Do you want marriage or do you want marriage with your soul mate?

If you’re in the position where you feel you need a man and that you cannot do without one, then you are not ready for marriage. You’re not ready for a relationship. I am speaking from experience.

It is only when you can live a full and complete life without needing to have a boyfriend/man that you are ready for the commitment of marriage.

Back to my original topic.

How do you know when a man is thinking about you long-term? What are the signs that he’s MORE than a boyfriend and thinking of marrying you?

Well if you’ve been together for a decent amount of time, your best bet in knowing if this man is marriage material is to think about whether you are in this man’s soul. Are you in his heart, does he burn for you? Has he continued to chase after you and make you feel like the most special woman in the world?

Then you can begin to assess all of the qualities that you desire in a potential long-term partner. Obviously no one is perfect but your boyfriend should possess some key qualities that are high on your priority list. Things that YOU want, not what you’ll compromise to make him stay with you.

Next, if you’ve been together for more than a year and he hasn’t brought up any talk of long-term it’s time to do some serious thinking. One of which includes getting him to begin to think about marrying you without having to talk with him about it. In my ebook, I go into more details.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, How to Go from Girlfriend to Wife, written to help you take your man from maybe to “I do” - Be the kind of woman your man HAS to marry. http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.com

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Do You Want Your Boyfriend to Marry You?
By Nicole Gayle

You’ve been dating your man and you’re thinking that he may be your dream man. After kissing many frogs, you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level but you’re unsure how to go about doing that.

Your boyfriend is prewired and have been “trained” to have certain expectations. There are basic things he’s looking for when it comes to thinking about long-term. Men generally take their time to jump into marriage for fear that their girlfriends will change or that they may be way in over their heads.

Men want to be sure. They love certainty and it is no secret that they also LOVE to win.

So question…does your man often feel as though he is winning with you? Is he appreciated, does he feel needed, does he have your attention or does he have to compete with other things.

If you want your boyfriend to ask you to marry him, you have to create the ideal situation in order for him to take that next step. This includes being the kind of woman that will sustain a marriage commitment.

Does he have doubts about you in the corner of his mind? Is he thinking that you will try to change him? How do you fight, is it fair?

If your boyfriend have any doubts at all about these things and more, he will not take the plunge. You can become the sort of girlfriend that he will take that next step with without any doubts in his mind whatsoever.

Nicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, How to Go from Girlfriend to Wife, written to help you take your man from maybe to “I do” - Be the kind of woman your man HAS to marry. http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.com

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