Your Dating Advisor

Striking Balance in a New Relationship Rather Than Striking Out in a New Relationship!
By Joi Sigers

Many Boomers who find themselves back in the forgotten waters of dating often wonder if it’s worth it. They feel like they’re sinking more than they’re floating and want, frankly, just to swim for land! If you’re one of these, I might have a few tips that’ll serve as a raft. They may help you stay afloat - after all, Mr. or Mrs. Right may be headed your way.

One of the problems with entering the world of dating, after years away, is that the whole game has changed, namely because the players have changed. You are now an independent, well-rounded individual with several chapters of life under your belt. What’s more, so are the individuals you’ll be dating. The wide eyes of innocence have become the wise eyes of experience. Yes, these are all extremely positive things, but they do come with a price tag.

The price tag sings a familiar tune, the “Set in My Ways” blues. Boomers have lived their life the way they’ve chosen for more than a few years. They have their own way of doing things, saying things, buying things, etc. Boomers have places they like to go and places they have no intention of going. They have things they like to do and things they have no intention of doing. The good thing is, you’ll never be in the dark for long, they’ll let you know right away!

That’s part of their charm, but it’s also part of the problem. Boomers have to allow themselves to “back up” and look at the world with fresh eyes and an open mind. They have to keep reminding themselves not to be so “set in their ways” that they become like concrete. Who wants to date or even know a statue?

We should all make a point of keeping our minds as flexible as we keep our bodies. When we feel the need to overly assert our likes and dislikes, we should remember the episode of Andy Griffith when Andy’s date, Lydia, bored him to tears with, “I do not like chit chat…” and details about the sun giving her the herpes. What a prize! We all have opinions, but they should never turn into stipulations. I’ve always taught my daughters to be on the look out for the number of things they say they don’t like. If you find that you’re often telling others how you don’t like to do this or that, or you hate this food or that food - ask yourself how much fun you think you are to be around. Never let yourself come across as a stick in the mud or someone who thinks their way is the only way.

To me, this is the main problem boomers face when dating. They’ve become so set in their ways that they tend to close down, refusing to let fresh ideas in. We should all be open to other people’s suggestions and ways of doing things. Should we ever compromise our principles or core beliefs? Bite your tongue! But we also shouldn’t turn people away by being overly rigid and “Lydia-like.”

A few other tips that come to mind are:

• Gauge how much the other person wants to talk about ex relationships and act accordingly. If he/she seems to want to get things out in the open, go for it. Maybe, once everything’s out, there’ll be no need to look at it ever again.
• You love your children, and you should! But if you talk about them NON STOP, it’s as though you’ve brought them along for the date. If you aren’t careful, you and your date will soon be surrounded by ex-lovers, children, pets, in-laws, lawyers, and friends. That’s too crowded to even breath, let alone create a new relationship.
• Look your best at all times. Whether you’re running for the Sunday paper, to Starbucks for a latte, or visiting the dentist - if you’re in dating’s warm waters again, you should be ready to dive at all times.
• Be well-read. Be sure you’re able to talk about more things than just your family, work, or (even) episodes of House. Be sure to keep up with the news and current events. Broaden your horizons - learn new things, take up new hobbies, play new games, etc. The more you’re able to do, the more interesting you’ll be.
• Take good care of yourself. Eat right and get plenty of exercise, rest, and fresh air. Make health a priority.
• Most of all - enjoy yourself! As a genral rule, when we embrace life, it embraces us back. And it doesn’t get any sweeter than that.

As someone once said, “Self isn’t something one finds, it’s something one creates.” Self Help Daily would love to help YOU create a masterpiece!

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Dating in Your 50s Requires a Little Give and Take
By Lance Winslow

As folks get older they get a little more set in their ways, they also experience repeats in business cycles, political rhetoric and get tired of the same game over and over again. Some become cynical in a destructive way, others in a humorous way and some are just oblivious to it all; they say ignorance is bliss. Still, sometimes a blissful displacement is a good place to be when trying to date in your 50s.

Over 50s dating has become all the rage and they seem to enjoy the online dating scene too. Of course, for some of them it becomes a disaster and for others a wonderful time, filled with lots of dating stories to share with their friends. One problem with over 50s dating is that when folks get too set in their ways, they have a tough time dealing with others’ idiosyncrasies and psychological issues, refusing to yield on their own.

There must be a little give and take, maybe this is why it is so hard for you to try to help fix someone up that is over 50 with a date, generally they will not hit it off very well, it will always be something. If you try to fix someone that is over 50 up on a date, it is best to warn them of the idiosyncrasies prior to fixing them up, and asking them if those are issues they can set aside.

By doing a little leg work in advance on these issues you can prevent a calamity and another dating horror story, as well as a few hurt feelings. Please consider this most excellent advice.

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Boomers With Bucks - Having Trouble Finding the Right Date?
By Lance Winslow

Yes, like you occasionally I like to go down to the local coffee shop and sit and relax, perhaps strike up a conversation or two. It’s always interesting to see what folks are doing in our community. I am lucky enough to live in a desert resort city which is heavily frequented by the wealthy and privileged from all over the world. And yes we have a shopping district very similar to Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills, CA and thus, I have on occasion gone to the coffee shop there for my daily intellectual conversation.

The other day a gentleman who is middle aged baby boomer was lamenting to me that he was doing a little dating and had not found any worthy choices. He lives local, but travels the world; I think he said this was his fifth or sixth home, something like that. He asked me for dating advice and we got to talking. I told him that maybe he was going about this dating thing all wrong.

He then asked me what I meant. I told him that perhaps he needed to start his own dating service and have someone build him a website and then interview the various folks who wanted to join. This would give him a chance to realistically see what was available and solve a problem in the market place. He liked the idea, but wasn’t sure he wanted to be in such a business.

Why not I asked, as he had many businesses and he said that was the problem too many businesses too many tax returns, too much going on. I asked then how do you have time to sit here and shoot the breeze with me. He said he had other people running things. Great, so have them run the dating service too, we can find a business plan online and implement it, piece of cake. This is one solution that perhaps you should look into if you have the same problem in your community. If there is not a good enough dating service available; Start one! Take the initiative and do it. Perhaps you will consider this concept.

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Boomer Dating Techniques - Create Simple Decision Matrix When Choose the Best Suitor to Date
By Lance Winslow

Should you date someone purely for emotion and go with the laws of attraction or should you take a more scientific approach and carefully study the possible candidates or potential suitors to date? This provided that you do have more than one or several potential choices as is usually the case.

Now many would cringe at the thought of doing anything but allowing your natural human instinct to choose your date, set the pace and determine who will be the players in your dating race. However, consider this if you will. If you are truly looking for your perfect companion, then maybe it is wise to step out of the emotional phase and the law of attraction just long enough to put pen to paper and size up your possible partners.

As you get older, you should probably not be seriously dating anyone who is not a “possible” and what I mean by that is it is silly to get involved with someone or engage in a dating routine that is not possibly someone you would consider spending the rest of your life with.

The best way to figure out if someone is right for you is to write down the things that are most important to you in a relationship and rank them on a scale of one to ten. Anything that is below 4, just ditch it. Then write down the names of your potential dates on the top of a piece of paper, draw a line across the top of the paper and a line down the center.

On the top on the left had side write “pluses” and on the right side write “minuses.” Next for each piece or paper or potential date start filling out the forms. Then take your list back out of what’s most important to you in a relationship. Then decide which one it is and duly kick the rest of their butts off the island.

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Senior Chatrooms Are Dangerous! - Over 50? Here’s What YOU Need to Know
By Robert Funge

Chat Rooms can be dangerous places, especially if you’re the type of person who freely provides personal information. Unfortunately, some less scrupulous individuals will try to gain your trust with their main intention of trying to scam you their number one goal.

So it pays to be vigilant and never disclose anything in a Chat Room that could be used to identify or defraud you. Obvious things to remember would be never to post your real name or postal address.

Even with bad press, there has been an explosion of Chat Room and Profile websites appearing all over the Internet, and for good reason, it can be a fun and enjoyable way to meet new and interesting people the world over.

Some of the better Chat Rooms are moderated in an attempt to filter out those individuals that are up to no-good, and largely, this works well. Often it’s the actual members of a Chat website who oversee things, the idea being, the more people who monitor the rooms the better the overall chat experience will be.

At fist glance you would be forgiven for thinking that Chat Rooms were solely for the young and computer literate. This simply is not the case as more and more over 50’s and seniors discover the joys of chatting in real-time.

Seniors in particular have discovered new ways of using Chat Rooms as a great pastime and means of making new lasting worldwide friendships. Less mobile, and seniors who have become isolated for whatever reason are turning to Chat Rooms and profile sites as a means of reaching out to others in similar circumstances and finding support and friendships that otherwise would have been impossible.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, this may just be the salvation you’re after.

People who care for sick or the elderly also benefit from a decent Chat Room as it gives them the chance to voice and vent their frustrations with others.

One such highly respected Senior Chat website and profile system that’s monitored, and is dedicated to anyone of 50 is Senior Chatters. There you’ll be able to become part of a global community and make lasting genuine worldwide friendships almost instantly.

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